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The Ten Rules for Emotional Wellness

Posted on October 28, 2011 at 1:44 PM Comments comments (363)
1-Take time to relax, exercise & spend quality time time with the people you enjoy.
2-Choose to find the positives in your life experiences instead of focusing on the negatives.
4-Don't get caught in blaming others, take responsibility for your own actions.
5-Take credits for your success and accomplishments / avoid false modesty.
6-Take the time to develop one or two close relationships in which you can be honest in expressing your feelings and thoughts with them.
7-Talk positively to yourself all day long.
8-Remove yourself from hurtful and damaging situations, walk away and give yourself the time and the space to problem solve.
9-Accept that life is about the choices we make.
10-Have a plan for the future.

Seven Basic Steps to Maintaining a Good Relationship

Posted on October 25, 2011 at 1:42 PM Comments comments (306)
1- Be aware of what you and your partner want for yourselves and what you want from the relationship.
2- Let one another know what your needs are.
3- Realize that it might be impossible for your partner to meet all your needs.
4- Be welling to negotiate and compromise on things you want from one another.
5- Do not demand that your partner changes to meet all your expectations. Work to accept the differences that you see between your ideal and the reality.
6-Try to see things from the other's point of view, this doesn't mean that you must agree with one another, but rather that you can expect yourself and your partner to understand and respect your differences, your point of view and separate needs.
7- Where critical differences exist in your expectations, needs, opinions or view , try to negotiate.

Symptoms, Causes & Treatment of Panic Attacks and Panic Disorder

Posted on September 30, 2011 at 12:06 PM Comments comments (643)
A panic attack is a sudden surge of overwhelming fear and anxiety that often strikes when the individual is away from home, but can also happen any time and anywhere. While panic attacks are usually triggered by a specific situation, they may also occur when the person is relaxed or even asleep.  Signs and symptoms develop abruptly & out of the blue and may last from 10 minutes to an hour.  The person may experience symptoms such as heart palpitations, dizziness, nausea, & may even feel that he/she is going crazy or dying.  Some sufferers may also experience Agoraphobia ( fear of public places ) trying to avoid crowded places, shopping malls, and other situations they fear may trigger the panic attacks.  A panic attack could be a one time occurrence, but most sufferers experience recurrent episodes of the disorder. 
The exact causes of panic attacks are unclear, they may be connected to life transitions, severe stress, or even medical conditions.  But regardless of the cause, panic attacks and panic disorder are treatable conditions utilizing one or combination of the following:
1- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy ( through counseling & psychotherapy), this method is proved to be the most effective form of treatment for panic attacks & panic disorders.

2-Exposure therapy , involving exposing the person to the feared situation in a safe and controlled environment. This method is very effective for those suffering from panic disorder with agoraphobia.

3-Medications,  antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs can be used temporarily  and are very useful in controlling & reducing symptoms. Medications, however, are most effective when combined with other treatment such as psychotherapy, behavioral modification as well as relaxation techniques.   

Diagnostic Criteria of Common Eating Disorders

Posted on September 6, 2011 at 12:09 PM Comments comments (1072)
These are the technical definitions of Anorexia and Bulimia:
-Loss of 5-15% of normal body weight coupled with refusal to maintain normal body weight
-Extreme fear of gaining weight
-Distorted body image ( feeling fat when very thin)\Absence of three or more consecutive menses/period ( Amenorrhea)

-Recurrent episodes of binge eating ( rapid consumption of large amount of food in a discrete period of time, usually less than two hours
-Feeling a lack of control during binges
-Regular episodes of self-induced vomiting, use of diuretics, strict dieting or vigorous exercise
-Minimum of two binges per week for at least three months
-Persistent over-concern with body shape and weight

Psychological treatment of eating disorders:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CPT): Assist the individual to think differently then his/her behavior will change accordingly.
Supportive Psychotherapy: Help the individual cope with stressful events.
Behavioral Techniques: Provide the person with several techniques to modify his/her behavior.
Interpersonal Therapy: Help the individual resolve interpersonal problems such as dependence, impulsive behavior,  conflicts with parent, unresolved anger, & fluctuation of mood.

The 7 habits of highly effective people

Posted on September 4, 2011 at 8:41 PM Comments comments (2120)
In developing our own self-awareness many of us discover ineffective scripts, deeply embedded habits that are totally unworthy of us, totally incongruent with the things we really value in life. We don't have to live with those script. We are responsible to use our imagination and creativity to write new once that are more effective, more congruent with our deepest values and with the correct principles that give our value meanings.

Preparing your child for school

Posted on September 2, 2011 at 12:48 PM Comments comments (573)

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Posted on August 28, 2011 at 7:18 PM Comments comments (1080)
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family, relationships, work life, and the individual's sense of self-identity. While BPD is less well known than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, it is more common, affecting 2 percent of adults, mostly young women. People affected by BPD exhibit a high rate of self-injury without suicidal intent, significant rate of suicide attempts, and in severe cases completed suicide. Patients with BPD often need extensive mental health services, and many improve over time and are able to lead productive lives.